Sounds like you might have helped me write a few of my Facebook status updates concerning this very thing.
#1: To defend hurtful actions w/ "that's just the way I am" is a confession that your love of God is not yet BIG enough to change you.
#2: We were 'saved' from "that's just the way I am"... Jesus died so that we don't have to “be that way”. We are "new creatures" free to change our mind and change our life... unless we just choose to “be that way”.
#3: A Moment of Clarity :: "That's just the way I am" is a cop out. That's lazy, ignorant, and trifling talk for unbelievers. You are ultimately who you "choose" to be. Yeah, it may take some time and effort, but you can change your mind (and therefore your attitude) about anything. It's your birthright because the brain is designed that way. "As a man thinketh in his heart so is he." Prov 23:7
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Monday, April 9, 2012
"Accept me for who I am." This is said everything. Working out, attitudes, style of dress, smoking, it just seems like an excuse not to address issues. For things you can't change (height, color, etc), that makes sense. But is this just a cop out mostly?
Why is it that when a nice looking woman has a smile on her face, a positive attitude and a friendly disposition.....guys automatically try to hit on her whether they are involved with someone else or not, young and old?
sis you can stop your description above at "a nice looking woman"... the smile, positive attitude, and friendly disposition are helpful but not necessary. Since the beginning of time men have taken notice of attractive women. But men respected women because they respected themselves... Not so much anymore. The "average" woman no longer feels strongly about boundaries and faith based convictions. And the "average" woman is actually open to anyone showing her some attention. Because of this the "average" man is actually encouraged to "try his luck" so to speak.
If the average woman didn't respond favorably to that foolishness then the average man wouldn't feel so empowered to step across those boundaries. You just stay firm in your own boundaries and once men know what your boundaries are and that they are strong, I promise you they will respect them... even though they might try to test your defenses first. :)
