Sounds like you might have helped me write a few of my Facebook status updates concerning this very thing.
#1: To defend hurtful actions w/ "that's just the way I am" is a confession that your love of God is not yet BIG enough to change you.
#2: We were 'saved' from "that's just the way I am"... Jesus died so that we don't have to “be that way”. We are "new creatures" free to change our mind and change our life... unless we just choose to “be that way”.
#3: A Moment of Clarity :: "That's just the way I am" is a cop out. That's lazy, ignorant, and trifling talk for unbelievers. You are ultimately who you "choose" to be. Yeah, it may take some time and effort, but you can change your mind (and therefore your attitude) about anything. It's your birthright because the brain is designed that way. "As a man thinketh in his heart so is he." Prov 23:7
Thanks for stopping by fam.
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Monday, April 9, 2012
"Accept me for who I am." This is said everything. Working out, attitudes, style of dress, smoking, it just seems like an excuse not to address issues. For things you can't change (height, color, etc), that makes sense. But is this just a cop out mostly?
Why is it that when a nice looking woman has a smile on her face, a positive attitude and a friendly disposition.....guys automatically try to hit on her whether they are involved with someone else or not, young and old?
sis you can stop your description above at "a nice looking woman"... the smile, positive attitude, and friendly disposition are helpful but not necessary. Since the beginning of time men have taken notice of attractive women. But men respected women because they respected themselves... Not so much anymore. The "average" woman no longer feels strongly about boundaries and faith based convictions. And the "average" woman is actually open to anyone showing her some attention. Because of this the "average" man is actually encouraged to "try his luck" so to speak.
If the average woman didn't respond favorably to that foolishness then the average man wouldn't feel so empowered to step across those boundaries. You just stay firm in your own boundaries and once men know what your boundaries are and that they are strong, I promise you they will respect them... even though they might try to test your defenses first. :)
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
Bo do you believe we can be Happy ? And that happiness can be contagious ?
Can we be happy? Absolutely. Happy is a choice not a condition. No matter what our circumstances we can choose to be happy. Ultimately it's a matter of perspective. When we are insecure, immature, or lose perspective we give our right to choose happiness over to the things, situations, and people around us. We look for things and people to make us happy and that's a dead end road. That's not happy, that's just distracted.
True, things and people can make us feel good but true happiness comes from within. True happiness is rooted in what we know, feel, and believe in our hearts. And what's in our hearts is closely tied to our faith. A faith in a higher power makes dealing with life's ups and downs much, much easier. Faith create stability and confidence in every situation and in any circumstance. With the power of faith we take back control over our own happiness and we choose to be happy even when other people can't understand why.
As for happiness being contagious? I don't know if true happiness is contagious, because again it's a function of faith and it's a choice. However, I do know that smiles are contagious, laughing is contagious, positive thinking is contagious, generosity is contagious, courtesy is contagious, and love is contagious. All of these things can make other's happier... But if you really want someone to experience true happiness no matter their circumstance it's not your happiness you need to share, it's your faith. It's like teaching them to fish. If you smile they will smile back for a minute or two never really knowing why. But if you explain to them why you're smiling then they can be empowered to choose the same happiness you have for the rest of their life.
I hope I answered your question fam. Thanks for stopping by.
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Steven “Bo” Beaudoin Jr.
Husband, Father, Friend, Mentor, Author, Speaker, Trainer, Professional Life/Relationship Coach, Entrepreneur, and Philanthropist. A champion of Christ centered clarity, motivation, and focus.
2M Communications ©2012 Copyright, Steven Beaudoin Jr. All Rights Reserved.
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
Thank you so much for suggesting that I check out your page I love it. I recently in this last year joined church and since my life has changed in so so many ways and I am grateful. How do I know when I have found my purpose in life?
Hey sis, congratulations on finding a new church and getting connected. Church isn’t for everyone but for those of us that are in critical stages of our life a good Bible teaching church with sound submitted leadership is a God send; so congratulations again.
As for your question about knowing when you’ve “found your purpose in life”? That’s a BIG one. I don’t believe there are any easy answers to that one. Not because our purpose is hard to find, but because the concept of a life’s purpose is actually really difficult to understand. And as such just about everyone you ask will have a different perspective and tell you something different. It is easy to get confused and/or discouraged trying to get anyone to give you a straight answer. Even now it may feel as if I’m somehow avoiding the question, but I assure you I am not. It’s just a very difficult question to answer.
For example, to most people the idea of a life’s purpose is presented as some kind of spiritual graduation ceremony or the finish to some super natural race. As if you must have achieved some level or spiritual superiority to actually find your purpose. Many people represent the concept of life’s purpose as some kind of finish line or coronation. I personally think that couldn’t be any further from the truth. But I can most certainly see how easily the destination might be confused with the process.
I don’t view our purpose as a destination, but as a journey; a process. And even further I certainly don’t see a life’s purpose in “WHAT or WHERE we do” as much as I see it in “WHY and HOW we do”. Ultimately, I believe our purpose IS TO MASTER THE JOURNEY of accepting, submitting, embracing, and being liberated by and in the freedom to serve God seamlessly in EVERYTHING we do. I believe searching for WHAT or WHERE our purpose is, is a natural but very self centered approach. Part of our journey is being liberated from defining ourselves by WHAT or WHERE we are and redefining ourselves according to God’s OMNIPOTENCE and OMIPRESENCE. It’s not about us… really it’s not.
Ultimately, it’s not about our purpose. It’s about being willing, able, and eager to serve the purposes of God where ever we might be and in whatever way that presents itself on our journey. Sis, I believe that once we have assumed the appropriate posture of genuine joy and submission in the serving the Lord God can use us to do anything, anywhere, and at any time… and in that way it is not about OUR purpose, BUT His.
One year that purpose might be to feed the homeless, the next year it might be to minister to orphans, the year after that it might be to evangelize a work place, or it may just be to be the best parent and spouse we can be in the family that God has given us. In this way our journey is simplified… We are to simply do WHATEVER we do as if we are doing it unto the Lord. No mystery… But we like to think more highly of ourselves than we ought, so many of us refuse to believe it could possibly be that simple.
I believe our real journey is internal and therefore I believe our real rewards and our real purpose are also manifested internally. Once we have died to the notion that we have some great purpose other than simply serving God in any way we can, it is only then that we are truly fit to serve any great purpose at all. It is then that I believe God will use us to do His will; to fulfill His purpose... not ours. It is in this personal death and resurrection that our true HIGHER purpose is ultimately served… Again not specifically in WHAT or WHERE we do anything… but in WHY and HOW we do everything.
Sis, please remember, this is just my own personal perspective. But you asked, so :)... I hope this helps.
Bo
